The older we get, the more set we are in our ways. Often we live by rules or notions we set for ourselves when we were much younger. What made us happy back then, or more importantly, what we though would make us happy, might not be applicable any more. Now it’s a given: The more we learn, the less we know. I do however think that we too often insist on sticking to a notion of who we are and what makes us happy, when the truth is quite contradictory.
We do create our own reality, and if the rules you live by don’t make you happy, change them!